Before marriage, we idealize marriage with the man of our dreams. You two and your two, seems the best thing in life. But when you have kids you realize that life is not like that what you think it to be. Less money, no romance, no time, this was obviously not what you pictured parenthood with the man you love. Putting your relationship back on track looks simply impossible. You also give drastic changes in your temperament. The responsibly of children’s also make you irritable and sleepless. But the only solution is to face the problem. Parenting is a full-time job, and it affects your marriage relationship. The main base of family life is marriage. If your marital relationship is strong, your family will be strong and vice versa.
There is never too late. You always have the chance to take a U-turn and amend the things. Here are simple and tested ways to let your marriage come back on the track or infarct make it more enjoyable and amazing.
The first thing is to keep one thing in mind that you have to put in extra effort to make and then maintain a healthy relationship. Take it as a task that you have to do or make it a challenge that you have to fulfill. Their might come very tough situations in the job life, but we work hard on them just to maintain or continue the job. This is something more important than your job. So why not put in all the energy to work out on your marriage? You will see how you will fall in love with your spouse all over again. And this time the love will be stronger. The children form strong families are more intelligent, confident and positive thinkers.
- Pay attention to good act and ignore the bad ones.
When you marry a person you find many good things in them, but why all of a sudden after a baby all these things just disappear and you find him a totally different man? It’s not only because he has changed, but also because you have changed your focus towards the bad. Make it a habit to ignore the little annoying things like wet towel on bed, a day old plate in the living room, the dirty laundry, the unattended fridge and think about the quilt he puts on you at night, the breakfast that he does for you when you are getting late.
- Make a habit to give compliments:
Just feeling good is not enough. It’s better to accept and say it loud. This is a golden key to your mate’s heart. Our world is so full of negative input, and we so rarely get compliments from other people. When we do get a compliment, it not only makes us feel great about ourselves, it actually makes us feel great about the person giving the compliment! Think about it! When your honey says, “You’re the best. I’m so glad I married you.” It not only makes you feel loved, it makes you feel more loving.
Tell her/him in a simple way so they don’t feel like artificial. Just say the dinner was awesome, thanks for ironing my dress.
- Give a gift without reason:
Gifting has the power to strengthen the bond of love. Giving gifts with no reason will just make you better half delighted. Chocolate gift is a romantic yet delicious gift that you can present at any time. Gifting not always means giving something expensive, but just to show love and concern. It can be a simple tie, a lip gloss, a flower from the lawn etc.
- Choose to be nice:
As the saying goes, if you have a choice between being right and being nice, just choose to be nice. Or to put this in the wise words of Bambi’s friend Thumper, the bunny rabbit – “If you can’t say something’ nice don’t say nothing’ at all.”It’s not necessary to win a quarrel all the time; the actual win is if you win the heart.
- Try to talk more:
You might find it sometimes that you run out of talks when you sit with your spouse. Try to talk about her/his interests. Ask about the new fashion, what he reads in the paper, what’s new going into politics or any other thing. The main idea is to break the barrier of silence. The communication is the solution of a million problems. Never let the communication connection break between you two.
Try out these simple tips for the next couple of weeks with full devotion and you will see a drastic change in your relationship.